mean people still suck

mostly it was a good day.... seriously. i managed to just do stuff at home all morning and then worked in the office for the afternoon... both leigh and memphis jenny called me to wish me happy birthday a day late and i had nice long chats with each.

why the title then?

i was chatting with another grad student this afternoon. he's working with one of the REU project mentors. only the professor is out of town for june and this grad student (who will remain nameless) is serving as project mentor until the prof gets back. i've chatted with this grad student many a time, and he's really good friends with one of my really good friends so i try to give him the benefit of the doubt and be nice even when he occasionally gets to me. whatever.

while we were chatting his two students came up, they are two of the four who skipped on monday... i commented to my grad student friend, "so i've already taken care of it but if you hear them talking about skipping things, encourage them to attend, ok?"

he basically admitted that after chaperoning for the at&t field trip last year he had told the two students that the trip was worthless and they should work on their project instead, but that he would encourage them to attend stuff in the future... then he looked at me funny for a minute, and then commented "but i feel like you're trying to make me be the adult here when that's your job and i'm supposed to be their friend"...

i replied that i had already been the enforcer, and i just figured since he had more 1 on 1 contact with these students than me, that maybe he could be encouraging.

whatever.

30 minutes later i overhear him talking with one of the students. (his office is down the hall from mine and doors were open), saying "yeah, so frankly i don't give a crap if you do any of the group stuff or not, but i don't want a girl giving me crap all summer so just do it ok?"

there's a difference between not being the enforcer and not undermining my position too. i *thought* said grad student and i were having a friendly chat and i could trust him.

i misjudged.

and now i'm annoyed.

oi.

later dudes.